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AGGRESSIVE STANCE: Type 7

  • Writer: Mammer Jammers
    Mammer Jammers
  • Jul 17, 2019
  • 3 min read


THE AGGRESSIVE STANCE // Type 7


AGGRESSIVE STANCE (3's, 7's & 8's) are oriented against the actions of others.


Type Sevens put the Centers of Intelligence into three categories:

  • THINKING (dominant)

  • DOING (supportive)

  • FEELING (repressed)


Like the other Aggressive numbers, Sevens are also oriented towards their own actions, and like the others, they are also "Feeling Repressed." Sevens dismiss the importance of feelings in themselves and in others, and they deal with relationships on the surface. Since they prefer thinking, they have plenty of plans and like to explore and develop these plans. Their ideas are endless, and they are interested in many things.


Suzanne Stabile talks about Sevens having a "half-range" of emotions. They are part of the Fear Triad, which is surprising to most because they don't seem to be fearful or anxious. But what they're afraid of is feeling sadness.


Sevens dismiss the importance of feelings in themselves and in others (especially in hard times), and they deal with relationships on a surface level. They are good at texting or emailing, but can completely ignore the emotional part of a relationship. They will charm their way out of a difficult situation or an emotional engagement. They will do whatever makes their lives easier.


They are always thinking new thoughts and dreaming new dreams, and it is hard for them to stay with the same thing for a long time. They keep their options open, and when they want something, they can be insistent without being overbearing.


Sevens are often surprised to hear that they are feeling repressed because they think they feel. However, they easily mistake thinking for feeling, since they have no connection to the Feeling Triad through wings, stress, or security. They think they have a rich emotional life, but instead have a rich imaginative life. They like challenges, but hate expectations. They like loose connections rather than commitment, but are usually dedicated once they commit.


Okay Sevens...do not lose hope! Let's talk about some ways Sevens can develop their Feeling Center and become more balanced.



GROWTH POINTS FOR SEVENS:

  • Accept the truth in order to move forward - This truth is that you only use a half-range of emotions on a regular basis. You must accept it as well as the fact that it is an issue that needs to be worked on.

  • Ask yourself "What am I feeling?" when you're feeling most energized during the day. Take a deep breath and ask yourself how you are feeling. Are you afraid or unhappy in that moment?

  • Be aware of feeling Bored! – "Boredom" is a watchword for you! If you catch yourself in boredom, ask yourself whether you are avoiding a difficult feeling or situation. Facing life’s darkness is the only way to pursue the full life you crave. 

  • Give sad & negative emotions space in your life. You can do this by putting yourself into positions that are difficult for you and that you can't fix. (like helping a loved one who's going through a hard time - just be there for them!)

  • Be present in those situations that you can't fix or control.

  • Learn to have tenderness towards those difficult emotions - like fear, sadness, loneliness, etc.

  • Take time to journal alone at the end of the day - was there anything that was difficult for you? was there anything that bored you or made you anxious/high energy? write about those emotions/feelings, especially the things that you couldn't control or fix.

  • Spouse or someone who cares for a Seven: encourage them to allow and experience a full-range of emotions. Patiently lead them to discuss how difficult situations made them feel. If criticism is necessary, be gentle and brief. Encourage them to share stories because that's when they tend to share feelings!



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